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The "life" of a Punter has plenty of ups and downs (no pun intended!). As it is a hobby, a release from the day-to-day humdrum and monotony, it needs to offer more pleasure than pain.......unless that is what you are into!

I guess everyone has to find their niche, to find what it is they look for and to find their pleasure.

Whether you seek the excitement of constantly meeting new people and the thrill of sex with strangers, or if you seek the reliability and companionship of a favoured lady or ladies, or whether you strive for new experiences and to test your own sexual boundaries and prowess, there is no shortage of opportunities for you!

Indeed, I feel the choice can be part of the "problem"! Let me explain: by problem, I of course recognise it is a good "problem" to have! In short, if we were all the same, how much easier life would be, but it is the variances, our own idiosyncrasies which makes it more of a challenge.

Finding what we truly desire and the types of ladies we prefer is half of the issue. In a way, it is more down to our own selectiveness, our own discerning tastes, which can make it more challenging.

For years, I have read Field Reports and feedback and despaired when I read guys castigating a lady for not offering the experience they seek. Playing the Devil's Advocate here, is it fair to say it is always the lady who is at fault?

Of course there are times where it may be, but, equally, how about us guys taking a look at ourselves first? Are we too demanding? Do we expect too much? Or have we just not found what we are looking for?

It is a sad truth we will not click with everyone we meet. This does not make it a lady's fault or the guy's, more a compatibility issue. Or what if the lady just does not offer the type of experiences we seek? To my mind this is like trying to go into M&S for a gallon of petrol! It is painful because we are in the wrong place! Is it the shop's fault or ours?

In some ways, I feel us guys have more of a challenge here. You see, a lady knows what she wishes to offer by way of experiences and availability, but we gents have to find those who match our own desires (once we know what these are!). A lady does not know as much about the guy who is coming to see her as the gent does about her, so if there is a mistake in selecting the companion, whose is it? Of course, we all make them and not every lady will deliver what she promises, I accept this. However, I also feel it is fallacious and totally disingenuous for us guys to make out none of it is down to us!

The life and travails of a Punter is as much about finding out about ourselves and what we truly desire, as it is in finding the ladies who match our tastes and desires and offer the experiences we crave.

It is a quest, but half the fun is the search. If every meeting were a success, they would soon become mundane too! The differences are what make it not only challenging, but rewarding. If, at times, it does feel like our hobby is full of travails, maybe it is time to take stock and reflect on what we seek and are we going about it in the right way. I know from my own experiences, I have made some right howlers, which are down to me and my choices! However, from these I have learnt valuable lessons.

The key is to learn those lessons and to seek the appropriate company, not to blame the ladies before or to take it out on everyone else thereafter. By learning and moving on, us gents can turn our travails into our travels to better things.