The "life" of a Punter has plenty of ups and downs (no pun intended!). As it is a hobby, a release from the day-to-day humdrum and monotony, it needs to offer more pleasure than pain.......unless that is what you are into!
I guess everyone has to find their niche, to find what it is they look for and to find their pleasure.
Whether you seek the excitement of constantly meeting new people and the thrill of sex with strangers, or if you seek the reliability and companionship of a favoured lady or ladies, or whether you strive for new experiences and to test your own sexual boundaries and prowess, there is no shortage of opportunities for you!
Indeed, I feel the choice can be part of the "problem"! Let me explain: by problem, I of course recognise it is a good "problem" to have! In short, if we were all the same, how much easier life would be, but it is the variances, our own idiosyncrasies which makes it more of a challenge.
Finding what we truly desire and the types of ladies we prefer is half of the issue. In a way, it is more down to our own selectiveness, our own discerning tastes, which can make it more challenging.
For years, I have read Field Reports and feedback and despaired when I read guys castigating a lady for not offering the experience they seek. Playing the Devil's Advocate here, is it fair to say it is always the lady who is at fault?
Of course there are times where it may be, but, equally, how about us guys taking a look at ourselves first? Are we too demanding? Do we expect too much? Or have we just not found what we are looking for?
It is a sad truth we will not click with everyone we meet. This does not make it a lady's fault or the guy's, more a compatibility issue. Or what if the lady just does not offer the type of experiences we seek? To my mind this is like trying to go into M&S for a gallon of petrol! It is painful because we are in the wrong place! Is it the shop's fault or ours?
In some ways, I feel us guys have more of a challenge here. You see, a lady knows what she wishes to offer by way of experiences and availability, but we gents have to find those who match our own desires (once we know what these are!). A lady does not know as much about the guy who is coming to see her as the gent does about her, so if there is a mistake in selecting the companion, whose is it? Of course, we all make them and not every lady will deliver what she promises, I accept this. However, I also feel it is fallacious and totally disingenuous for us guys to make out none of it is down to us!
The life and travails of a Punter is as much about finding out about ourselves and what we truly desire, as it is in finding the ladies who match our tastes and desires and offer the experiences we crave.
It is a quest, but half the fun is the search. If every meeting were a success, they would soon become mundane too! The differences are what make it not only challenging, but rewarding. If, at times, it does feel like our hobby is full of travails, maybe it is time to take stock and reflect on what we seek and are we going about it in the right way. I know from my own experiences, I have made some right howlers, which are down to me and my choices! However, from these I have learnt valuable lessons.
The key is to learn those lessons and to seek the appropriate company, not to blame the ladies before or to take it out on everyone else thereafter. By learning and moving on, us gents can turn our travails into our travels to better things.
Sadly, I am not able to make the Winter Social next week, but I want to wish those who are fortunate enough to be attending a fun and enjoyable time.
I just want to say a big, BIG "thank you" to everyone for the tremendous support you have given me, not just with my blog in general, but in particular during the last month or more when things have not been at their best.
From Admin, to Karry, to numerous other members who have sent a message or a tweet, I just what you to know it has been greatly appreciated and it made a big, big difference to me.
I have always enjoyed the positive and constructive banter on the forum, which is so different in its nature from every other similar board I have seen. I will try my best to participate on a more regular basis from now on.
My blog will recommence next Wednesday and I have a large number of articles loaded, so it should be back to business as usual. However, I would happily welcome some guest blogs too!
Enjoy the social and I hope those of us who cannot be with you will be treated to a full and unexpurgated version of the events!
If you have followed my own blog or seen the latest post, you may well be aware things have not been great lately, so I have decided to take something of a sabbatical.
How long for? I honestly have no idea!
What has stung me more than anything is the fact for one year everything was going very well and I had not had any major issues occur. Moreover, although I was only seeing a few regulars, I was more than happy with those I was seeing and the times we shared.
Without wishing to go into any details, what happened came so out of the blue and was such a shock, it quite literally left me feeling numb.
Whatever the reasons are behind this issue, it is now all irrelevant. I felt I had to move on, to try and decide where I wanted to go from here, in general as a Punter and with my own blog.
A period of self-analysis is never a bad thing and something I believe one should do from time to time, regardless of how well things are going.
This latest one really surprised me with the answers I arrived at!
Issues do occur for Punters and Escorts alike. Heaven knows I have had my share! What made a big difference this time round was the relationship I have with a couple of my lady friends. But for their concern and for picking up the phone to me, I know this would have been a very simple decision.
Moreover, I have received some lovely messages of support from a range of people, some whom I know quite well and some whom I only know via occasional tweets and emails.
I do believe no-one can really expect to be a Punter or Escort without encountering the occasional hiccup, so some form of support network is vital if one is to enjoy any longevity in this field. I am sure there are those who cope without, but I know from my own experience, without such support, how lonely it can be.
Where I go now is largely irrelevant to everyone else and is a decision which will become clearer to me in the coming weeks.
Part of my self-analysis was to return to the fundamental reasons why I do this and what I look for in the relationships I share. Certainly the support of others has helped me refocus enormously.
Whether brought on by either good or bad experiences, a period of reflection is never a bad thing.
